By: Laura K. Gardner
In a culture often focused on hustle, hyper-productivity, and superficial empowerment, trauma healer and embodiment coach Monica Yates offers women something different: permission to feel, to rest, and to reconnect with their most authentic selves. Her new release, Becoming HER: Straight Talk for Healing, Embodying, and Radiating as Your Most Powerful Self, is resonating with many readers globally and offers an alternative perspective on what it means to be an empowered woman in today’s world.
Yates, known for her straightforward approach and transformative coaching, developed her proprietary H-E-R Framework™ (Heal, Embody, Radiate) to support women in moving beyond survival mode and finding alignment with their core feminine essence. According to her, this process begins by unlearning some of the societal conditioning women may have internalized over time.
“Many women may not even recognize they’re stuck in survival mode until they start experiencing challenges—whether that’s a physical breakdown, a shift in their libido, or relationships that no longer feel effortless,” Yates explains. “Conditioning often sounds like: ‘I feel guilty when I rest,’ ‘My success makes me more lovable,’ or ‘If I need my partner, I am needy.’ These beliefs can unconsciously undermine us, preventing access to the softness, intuition, and receptivity that are often at the core of feminine energy.”
In Becoming HER, Yates presents a vision of femininity that goes beyond the simplistic or performative portrayals often seen on social media. Instead, she emphasizes a more embodied, nuanced understanding of living in one’s feminine energy—one grounded in nervous system safety, emotional honesty, and balance.
“Feminine energy is not just about how you look or whether you participate in certain trends,” she says. “It’s about feeling safe to receive, rest, feel, and be guided. A woman embracing her feminine has clear boundaries and is comfortable saying ‘no.’ She isn’t trying to perform for others—she is in alignment with her heart and grounded in her own truth.”
Yates is also candid about the dynamics of polarity in romantic relationships, a topic often overlooked in modern empowerment conversations. She believes that many women unintentionally sabotage their own intimacy by staying in a masculine, control-oriented mode, which can leave little room for their partner to lead.
“Polarity plays a key role in maintaining intimacy,” she notes. “It develops when a woman feels safe enough to surrender into her feminine, and her partner feels trusted to lead from his masculine. If a woman is in her masculine energy all day—making decisions, calling the shots—she may find it challenging to allow her partner to step into his role. Over time, this can reduce chemistry and even create feelings of resentment.”
Yates’ insights into these emotional and energetic realms are grounded in her extensive coaching experience. Over nearly a decade, she has worked with thousands of women worldwide, including high-achieving professionals, mothers, and business owners, helping them reconnect with their bodies, process past trauma, and restore balance in their lives and relationships.
With a grounded voice and expertise, Yates is inviting women to move away from perfectionism, performance, and constant proving. Instead, she advocates for the freedom to embrace softness, stillness, and authenticity.
As Becoming HER continues to gain popularity, it’s clear that Yates is tapping into an urgent and widespread need. In a society where women have often been conditioned to suppress their instincts and carry an overwhelming burden, this book offers a shift toward healing and alignment—not just as a personal development tool, but as part of a larger movement.
Monica Yates is a leading trauma healer and embodiment coach, a New York Times bestselling author, and the Founder/CEO of Monica Yates Health. For the past eight years, through somatic trauma healing and deep embodiment work, Yates has supported women in overcoming hyper-masculinity and reconnecting with their feminine energy. Her approach offers lasting expansion in all areas of life—business, love, family, health, and fertility. For more information about Monica, her workshops, and her bestselling book Becoming HER: Straight Talk for Healing, Embodying, and Radiating as Your Most Powerful Self, visit www.monicayateshealth.com.
Disclaimer: The information in this article is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. It is not intended to replace the advice of a licensed healthcare professional. Always consult your physician or qualified health provider with any questions regarding a medical condition.
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